Understanding the Mind Body Connection The Interaction Between Neurotransmitters, Thoughts & Emotion

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CEUs comm slash counselor toolbox so I'd like to welcome everybody to today's 
presentation on the mind-body connection today   we're going to talk about how neurotransmitters 
interact to help us have moods if you will   we're going to learn about the central control 
center of the brain what it does in relation to   producing emotions what thoughts have to do 
with everything and how the brain actually   causes physical reactions and sensations we'll 
talk about how things can go wrong which lead to   feelings of depression anxiety anger insomnia all 
kinds of other stuff and some ways to fix those   things obviously in an hour we can't talk about 
all the ways to fix those things but I always   like to leave people with some tips tools and 
tricks that they can start doing or looking at   doing today in order to start feeling better it 
keeps the momentum going if people are interested   in topic or they're thinking that well this might 
help me keeping them going giving them something   to look at and start learning about so we're 
going to start out with the brain your central   control center and if you are a cartoon junkie 
like I am you will recognize our little buddy   over here but anyhow I digress your brain takes in 
information compares it to what it already knows   or thinks it knows from prior experiences and 
makes a decision about what to do so we use this   model of a computer CPU generally when we're 
talking about the brain and it's not exactly   accurate but it gives you an understanding on a 
more global perspective of what's going on in the   brain there's been a lot of research lately 
that says you know your brain doesn't store   memories per se well but we know that there are 
certain actions and reactions that are happening   so we're going to proceed with this metaphor 
throughout this training and just understand   its neuro chemically not exactly a hundred percent 
correct so based on the decision that your brain   makes it activates action centers which excrete 
neurotransmitters in order to produce the desired   reaction so you put your hand on a hot stove and 
your peripheral nervous system registers that's   hot that hurt your brain says that's painful pull 
your hand away because we don't want to burn our   skin up so you pull your hand away and that's 
kind of what we're talking about with a lot   of our other decisions that result in emotional 
pain not just physical pain chemical messengers   are our neurotransmitters take orders to and 
from the brain through the nervous system so   it's this give and take feedback loop going on 
and the things we're going to talk about today   are really what I call the big five and there 
are all kinds of hormones and neurotransmitters   and stuff that we're not covering today but the 
big ones I really want you to understand are your   excitatory and your inhibitory neurotransmitters 
so the ones that get you revved up and motivated   and want to get off the couch and the ones that 
say you know what let's binge on Netflix for   the weekend so you're excitatory neurotransmitters 
dopamine dopamine is your reward it's kind of like   your cookie at the end of doing something good it 
says let's do that again I want to remember that   that was really awesome along with dopamine you 
have norepinephrine and glutamate these are your   get-up-and-go neurotransmitters now depending on 
what other neurotransmitters they're paired with   their buddies with they can say get up and go 
yay rahu let's go on the roller coaster again   or it can be get the heck out of here this is 
a really dangerous situation but it's get up   and go it's telling you you need to do something 
it's stimulating and when we think excitement we   tend to think happy but excitement in terms of 
neurotransmitters just means it stimulates your   body it revs everything up it makes your heart 
rate increase it makes your breathing increase   sometimes if you're really excited that might 
make your speech increase no just kidding but   things are getting really revved and that prepares 
you for the fight-or-flight reaction or you know   just some rush of endorphins from pleasure as 
in the case of the roller coaster which I never   understood and then you have your inhibitory 
neurons and they're the ones that come in when   the stress or the threat is gone and they say 
let's relax let's chill out it's all okay you   know everybody can stand down there's no threat 
anymore and then serotonin doesn't really relax   you but it's your calming and contentment 
neurochemical if you want to kind of pare   it down to two words it does so much stuff but in 
terms of excitation or inhibition it's more of an   inhibitory calming chemical now there's always 
a balance it's like making a hot bath you turn   on the water and you try to get it right but 
you feel it and it might be a little too hot   so then you put in some cold and you feel it a 
little while longer and you're like ah too much   cold and you've got a monkey with it a little 
bit this is kind of what's happening when you   have a extreme stress response you dump a whole 
lot of hot into the system and then in order to   balance it out you need to kind of take pull back 
the hot sum and add a little bit of cold and the   cold in this particular metaphor would be your 
inhibitory neurotransmitters but there's always a   balance you don't ever have one without the other 
and that's what's really important to understand   with neurotransmitters is that if you had too 
much of something it can also cause depression   and anxiety just as if you didn't have enough of 
it well look look at that a little bit more in   the next few slides so what a neurotransmitters 
do it's a big word but what does it do emotional   your neurotransmitters are responsible for the 
physiological reactions that we've come to label   as happiness sadness anger and fear when a baby's 
born you know they don't have these words to use   they have physiological reactions and as they 
grow up we you know a child gets startled we   say you know you don't need to be scared and 
we help them learn how to calm down and they   associate that physiological reaction with fear 
when they have a temper tantrum we associate a   you know you're angry right now and we help them 
associate that physiological that feeling whatever   it is for them as anger and then sadness and 
Happiness are obviously pretty self-explanatory   so these emotions we have are really words 
that we placed on physiological states you   know is your heart rate calm is it racing is your 
breathing slow and deliberate or is it rapid and   shallow mentally neurotransmitters also help us 
with concentration learning and decision-making   so you'll see kind of where I'm going with this 
in a minute physically neurotransmitters help   with sleep behavior you're going to learn two 
presentations from now when we talk about sleep   how serotonin is essential in order to produce 
melatonin so if you don't have enough serotonin   then your melatonin is is going to be deficient it 
regulates eating behavior libido gastrointestinal   functioning and motility and pain perception and 
you're like okay so why do I hear let's think   about the symptoms for depression depression is a 
general lack of pleasure in most things most days   for at least two weeks okay fine so you have this 
feeling of sadness that some but you've learned   to label as sadness or apathy concentration a 
lot of times people who are depressed have a   hard time with concentration and decision-making 
they have problems with sleeping they're either   sleeping too much or they can't sleep at all 
they're having problems with eating they may   be eating to self food they may be eating because 
they can't tell if they're hungry or not there's   a lot of different reasons they may be eating but 
there's often eating disturbances libido tends to   go down gastrointestinal functioning and motility 
when people get upset their bellies get upset and   pain perception they found that when serotonin 
goes down that we have greater pain perception   but when you're thinking about the symptoms of 
depression and anxiety you can see where they're   really represented in actions that are tied to 
neurotransmitters so this is why neurotransmitters   are so important even if you only focus on you 
know the five or six big ones it's important to   and that imbalances in this system can 
cause some of or exacerbate some of the unhappiness and dysphoria that our patients 
are experiencing so think about it what is   your body's response you know not generally what 
is it but when you are afraid what happens to   your body your respiration rate do you start to 
sweat does your heart start to race do you have   ringing in your ears tunnel vision what's going 
on how do you wait what is it that you label as   fear the same thing is true think about what is 
it what are you feeling when you label things   and say I'm angry what physiological cues did 
you have to go yeah this something's not right   and then depressed and depressed is again like 
any of these others it's going to be a little   bit different for everybody but if you wake up 
and you say it on really depressed today how are   you feeling busier physiologically what have you 
associated this label with so mood disorders are   an imbalance in neurotransmitters that cause 
emotional mental and/or physical distress   but what causes the imbalances that's kind of 
what we're talking about this mind-body thing   going on because too often we say well cognitive 
behavioral therapy is the key to fixing depression   well it probably will help a lot but there may 
be other things going on likewise we can't just   necessarily treat everything with a pill so what 
is it that causes these mood disorders or and   and neurotransmitter imbalances and basically we 
have two things either a reduced flow of something   there's the body has slowed down the excitatory 
neurotransmitters as we can't we can't run this   hot right now or there's an insufficiency because 
so much is run for so long but there's not enough   left now generally the insufficiencies we see in 
people who've abuse drugs and/or people who have   some sort of biological or fizzy logical brain 
damage that causes problems producing certain   neurotransmitters most of the time it's reduced 
flow the awesome thing is reduced flow as you'll   see in a minute can be fixed it can go backwards 
or it can rebalance itself too much stress for   too long think about and most of us have gone 
through periods where we've been really stressed   for a really long time and then we've gotten 
gotten it in check even if it you know think   about some finals week when you're in graduate 
school or maybe you were studying for your comps   exams and that's even bigger than finals week you 
started studying three months ahead of time and   some people they were great with it you know it's 
just they were confident they were going to pass   and we're not talking about them we're talking 
about us um persistent worrywarts that wonder if   we know everything and we need to know everything 
that's going to be on the exam so we stress about   it for a long period of time eventually your 
your brain goes yeah I need a break I can't do   this all hands on deck 24/7 365 for an extended 
period so we need to pull back some of those   excitatory neurotransmitters addictive behaviors 
like I said tend to flood the body with dopamine   and excitatory neurotransmitters medications 
opiates and in some other medications that may   be prescribed and they may be taken as prescribed 
may affect the balance of neurotransmitters for   example SSRIs typically mainly increase the 
amount of serotonin but what does that do to   the amount of norepinephrine that in the body and 
norepinephrine remembers your motivation chemical   so if you're feeling good but you don't have 
any motivation there's still this sense kind   of depression so understanding the balance 
between them it's not just increasing one or   decreasing one it's helping the brain find balance 
and insufficient sleep sleep is the time that your   brain rest and kind of gets rebalanced and all 
that kind of stuff and they found that one of   the first things to go during sleep deprivation 
is cognitive functioning we lose the ability to   concentrate make decisions and our ability to 
learn in our short-term memory is significantly   impaired so let's think about the analogy of Black 
Friday and addiction so on a normal day and we can   say addiction or extreme extended stress and 
some people have this you know for days not   just days but months years on end they are wigged 
out stressed to just the brink and and so we want   them to understand kind of what's going on but 
in this particular scenario we'll talk more about   addiction because it's more immediate so think 
about on a normal day a place like Target has a   capacity of say 750 people you know that's what 
the fire marshal says they can handle the store   needs a constant 500 people going through during 
the day to stay open okay so that's fine so they   have eight doors in order to allow for people to 
enter an easily and staff enter and exit easily   without getting bunched so when you go to Target 
you know there's always like a bunch of doors and   you're like well what what are all these doors 
needed for there's only like four of us but it's   in order to allow for easy flow of people in and 
out and it works well and this is how things are   when you're nervous neurotransmitter system is 
working well when you get stressed you have an   influx of people and then you know they leave and 
you have the balance out with it with the calming   chemicals but there's never a flood there's never 
an overabundance except for on Black Friday Black   Friday everybody's waiting they've camped out 
and 1,500 people push through the door as soon   as it opens and what happens I thankfully I've 
never been to a Black Friday because I really   hate shopping but you know I've seen pictures 
on TV and people are stomping on each other and   they're pushing through the doors the shelves 
are just ripped bare with stuff people are all   over each other the store is basically destroyed I 
mean not forever but stuff is just everywhere the   staff is exhausted they're looking at you kind 
of shell-shocked and it's going to be a little   while before the store can restock itself 
so what do they do do they keep the doors   open so more people can keep flowing in and keep 
overwhelming the store no theoretically if it were   legal management would close all but two of the 
doors and they would put security guards there and   go okay five people can go in and then they wait 
for five people to go out and they'd normalize it   until staff had time to restock the shelves and 
get everything back under control again that's   kind of what your brain does your brain serves 
as management and goes whoa that was way too   much happy or that was way too much stress I need 
a break so I can restock all the shelves and get   ready for the next round of whatever it is if you 
understand if you look at it that way you realize   that even if people have been using cocaine or 
methamphetamine for years you know that's been   a long Black Friday but when they stop and allow 
their brain to rest and rebalance it usually is   able to do that almost back to normal they found 
with but it takes time you know if you have been   using methamphetamine for 15 years 15 days is not 
going to get you rebalanced it takes time for your   brain to repair itself because it's been injured 
but it does so where does all this information   that we keep talking about come from your brains 
making decisions based on information and you   know it's not just from these anonymous sources 
it's from your peripheral nervous system but it's   not very smart either these are your nerves say 
something hot something dangerous or your eyes   that say I've seen this before and it triggers a 
memory that says yeah this is really bad mojo here   we need to get out but your eyes your sense 
of smell what you touch it's all providing   information to your brain that's saying it's all 
clear or there might be a threat all hands on deck when the all hands on deck comes out what 
is your brain do it excretes norepinephrine   with noradrenaline and your body goes you know 
Red Alert red alert red alert fight-or-flight   reaction because in order to survive I either 
need to fight this threat or get away from it and   then when it calms down you know it does not just 
that that disappears although that noradrenaline   disappears but then GABA and and serotonin tend 
to come in and go all right threats past you   made it congratulations good job but how does 
the brain know what's threatening because okay   something's hot what does that mean how do we 
know that's threatening one of our cats who's   not the brightest kitty in the world jumped up 
on the counter one time and walked put his paw   right on a hot griddle he didn't remove it until 
he smelled this be well maybe it's eventually he   felt it but he didn't remove it until he had 
done a fair amount of damage blistering his   poor little paw and so his response system 
didn't really kick in right away and go oh   that's that's something that's probably hot but 
not touch it he remembers that now poor little   guy when you were born there were very few things 
that were meaningful I mean we're thinking infant   everything is new to an infant they're just like 
haha you've assigned meaning to things through   observation and experience over time you know 
when you're a little kid you learned that one   of the favorite games of a lot of toddlers is they 
learn that if they throw their fork on the ground   mommy will pick it up put forth back on toddler 
throws it on the ground again you go oh and of   course you pick it up again and they've learned 
through this experience that if something falls   on the ground well initially mommy will pick it up 
but eventually it becomes incumbent upon them to   pick it up so when something happens you compare 
it to prior experiences and decide what to do so   think about dogs and dogs get a bad rap I love 
dogs don't get me wrong but if the dog comes   rushing down a fence line barking and charging 
and bearing allah's peace and i'm not talking   about a chihuahua I'm talking about a Rottweiler 
just charging at you depending on your prior   experiences you're either going to look at and 
go oh isn't the doggie all excited sweet little   doggie or you're going to about wet yourself and 
try to get as far away from that dog as you can   depending on what your prior experiences are and 
you know I'm something akin to Elmira so I usually   walk up to it and start talking baby talk and 
telling it it doesn't need to worry which the dog   continues to bark so I haven't learned from that 
but this is how we understand why different people   react differently to different situations because 
it's based on a schema if you think back to Piaget   who said that schema are basically shortcuts 
they're basically brief descriptions of prior   similar experiences and we say okay when we go to 
a restaurant this is how we're supposed to behave   because this is restaurant behavior and we have a 
restaurant schema we have a school schema we have   a scary dog schema and we compare things so when 
scent our senses say you know they see something   or smell something that reminds us of something 
from the past that schema is activated and it   either says yeah that was a bad bad situation 
or that was nokay situation and then your brain   either sends out the all-hands-on-deck signal 
or the don't worry about it signal unfortunately   until about age seven children's interpretation 
of behavior is centric which means is based on   one thing at a time so if somebody comes in and 
they start yelling they're going to be focused on   one thing and usually it's the yelling person 
who appears to be very scary probably so they   may start thinking that that person is scary 
it's concrete there's no hypothesizing about I   wonder what could have made this person so angry 
that they came in and they start yelling it's you   came in and started yelling that was scary so 
you are scary it's all or nothing it's either   terrifying or it's not there's no middle ground 
there's no middle of the road explanation if   you sing dialectical behavior therapy there's no 
middle path here children are very all-or-nothing   and it's egocentric what I perceive must be the 
truth so if I perceive it to be scary then it's   terrifying and if it's terrifying to me then it's 
terrifying to everybody which for a little kid   can be really threatening because they're relying 
on adult people to protect them and if they think   they're scared so everybody's scared then yeah 
who's going to save them so anyway so kids get   these schemas and we start building schemas from 
the time we're knee-high to a grasshopper and   that's just the way we do it but those schemas are 
not 100% accurate they're based on the experiences   the child's have had up to that point and a 
four-year-old hasn't had many experiences so they   may not be a hundred percent accurate one thing 
we need to do as counselors or even as people if   we find that we have a lot of stress is look at 
some of our schemas and say are these accurate in   present day am i considering the whole totality of 
the situation or am I only looking at one piece am   I looking at all the possibilities or just what 
I can see right here am i considering it all or   nothing or am I willing to look at you know yes 
that person came in and was screaming and that was   scary but there could be a lot of a lot of other 
reasons for it and it may not have been me so you   know it was scary for a minute looking at sort of 
a middle accepting what is and then it may not be   all about us the other thing we need to look at 
is even if it was accurate you know even if we   formed a very thorough schema when whenever we 
formed that idea and think about older children   16 17 18 they're forming really act you're at 
schemas at this point they still don't have the   same knowledge that a 47 year old does but they 
have a lot more and they have much more formalized   ways of thinking and abstract ways of thinking so 
they're probably a lot more accurate but something   that was threatening or troublesome to a 16 year 
old in high school may not be threatening or   troublesome when they're 26 or 36 or 46 because 
they've grown up they develop stronger coping   skills they've developed other needs and 
they've also their priorities have changed   what was devastating to a 16 year old you know 
maybe not being liked or not being included in   the in-group or you know one of those issues that 
a lot of high schoolers deal with when you get to   be older yeah you still like to be included don't 
get me wrong however you've also learned through   experience but not everybody's going to like you 
and hopefully you've learned how to be okay with   that so it's no longer applicable to say that this 
is a huge threat if somebody doesn't like me and I   could also argue that not that's not applicable in 
high school but ups the self-esteem presentation   so we're going to go with it interpretations are 
only as good as the information coming in so if   you have faulty information then you may make 
a faulty interpretation so if you think you see   something that you didn't really see you might 
not make the right interpretation somebody comes   in and they've got a bump in the back of their 
in the back of their pants under their jackets   now you think that means to have a gun what if it 
means they have a TENS unit on which is something   else or they have their cell phone back there or 
they took their shirt in weird there could be some   other explanation for it but the information 
you have is person bump in the back of their   jacket prior experience may say danger so prior 
experience may say time for that anxiety stress   reaction to kick in and prior knowledge you know 
maybe you've experienced situations like this in   the past you've realized that they're usually 
not a big deal so prior knowledge can take that   information though you know what there have been 
bad situations before but this is probably not   one of them think about if you have a boss 
who usually only calls you into his office   when you're in trouble for something it's bad 
news so when he calls you into your office or   when he calls you into his office what's your 
first reaction oh crap something bad is going   to happen no news is good news don't want to be 
here so the prior knowledge combined with the   information coming in prior experience is combined 
with that information provides and interpretation   now it may not be the right one we don't know yet 
until we get the actual information and we hear   what our boss has to say things that are learned 
at early childhood need to be re-examined as we   grow to see if it's still accurate I've worked 
in co-occurring disorders for many many years   and dealing with families a lot of times there are 
children who are growing up in addicted families   who learned that it's not safe to talk to trust 
or to feel those are the family rules of the   addicted family and they grow up into adults who 
are afraid to assert their opinions or ideas to   trust anyone or to feel anything because if they 
do they might get hurt and we end up seeing a   lot of those people in counseling the challenge 
here is when you feel something or when people   feel something that make them feel upset to look 
back and go why am I feeling this way and is this   accurate in present day yet when you were six and 
you were living in that family it may have been   very accurate that was the safe thing to do now 
that you are 36 and not living in that household   is that the safest and most productive thing for 
you to do once you were in middle school you could   be taught to start considering multiple aspects 
for the situation and using abstract reasoning so   you'll find that schemas that were formed in 
middle school in high school tend to be more   accurate than those that were formed when you 
were you know four or five four five and six   so that's good and as teachers as clinicians 
as parents we can help children look at the what they need to do and look at the alternatives 
and the question comes in it do hormones affect   the ability to be taught and having two teenagers 
at home my gut reaction is to say yes however   we know that hormones greatly affect people's 
ability to get quality sleep and lack of estrogen   or insufficient estrogen can contribute to poor 
quality sleep low testosterone can also contribute   to poor quality sleep as can high testosterone 
so if we go with follow the theory that when   we don't get good quality sleep it's difficult for 
people to learn and to concentrate and to focus on   the bigger picture then I would say yes hormones 
have an indirect effect on the ability to learn in   the environment because we're just kind of not as 
with it when hormones are out of whack and there's   always a balance between estrogen progesterone 
and testosterone but so that's yes a good question   there are a lot of things that affect how we 
learn we know that when hormones are high that   people tend to be more reactive testosterone 
and estrogen people tend to be more reactive   and more emotional which could translate possibly 
to labeling something as an unpleasant experience   when it was more of a neutral experience so 
we want to look at all of the vulnerabilities   that contributed to the ultimate decision or the 
ultimate upset not just necessarily what someone   said or what the situation was but what personal 
factors did you bring to the interpretation of   the situation so in example a child brings 
home a report card the child hears negative   messages from their parent why did you get a 
C I know you're not that stupid or why can't   you do anything right wait I know parents say the 
child interprets in their all-or-nothing mindset   I can't do anything to make my parent proud 
and because of this I'm not lovable because   it's about me and I don't feel lovable right 
now because I can't do anything right future   behaviors could potentially be desperately 
seeking external validation and approval   and fears of abandonment because they never felt 
like they could do anything right to earn somebody   else's love so you know it's got conditions 
of worse and all kinds of stuff going on here alternate example because kids get bad grades 
child brings home a report card and here's neutral   or positive messages from the parent we're still 
talking about a fee why did you get a C in math   it seems like you might need some help in that 
subject and I know we're not supposed to ask Y   questions but we do you're really smart and a 
good student I'm wondering what's causing you   difficulty in math so it's specific it's not 
global it's not you're stupid is you seem to   be struggling in math and there's some positive 
stuff in there that says you know you got the   tools to do this what's causing the problem the 
child in this case generally would interpret   all or nothing needs to be refocused to specifics 
they'll learn that it's not I'm bad at school I'm   a bad student they learn and not so good at math 
but they focus on the things they're good at and   they fear that this their egocentric and single 
focused interpretation needs to be broadened to   the big picture I am a good student more global 
what am i and you know what is this situation   future behaviors eventually as an adult this 
person will learn to examine specific behaviors   instead of globalizing everything and they'll be 
able to identify their strengths and weaknesses   and say you know what I'm really smart I'm a 
really good student but I'm not so good at this   or I'm a really good you know clinician but I'm 
not so good at psychoeducation groups or whatever   you know you our strengths and weaknesses because 
we all have them but it's okay and that's what we   want our children to hear or at least learn to 
hear example number two the parent of a parent   abandons the family the child interprets you 
all or nothing my parent has to love me what   child grows up thinking and my parent doesn't 
have to love me kid thinks you know my parent   has to love me and they left so they must hate 
me which means I'm unlovable you know this is a   pretty elementary level progression of thought 
future behaviors if this is left unchecked the   person feels inadequate my parent didn't 
even love me enough to stay around fears   of abandonment my parents abandoned me and if 
anybody was supposed to stick around it was my   parents and seeking external validation that 
was not received from the parent so trying to   basically redo that relationship to resolve 
their mommy or daddy issues whoever it was   who left what parents separate canvassed ever be 
resolved hopefully well one example if the parents   separate but they're both actively involved 
in the child's life then the parent the child   still believes well my parent has to love me but 
the child sees my parent is doing whatever is in   their power to stay in my life and will always 
be there for me so there's a different reaction   when the parent is still there because children 
cognitively can't understand when parents just   disappear that's mind boggling to them so as a 
result the adult it feels adequate and able to   provide internal validation I'm good enough you 
know people are going to love me and they learn   that in relationships people may go away they 
may move away they may break up but it doesn't   mean that they won't be back or that it's about 
you it means it may mean it's more about them example three a child witnesses domestic violence 
the child sees mom get hurt and make daddy drink   and make daddy hit her because she makes mad 
and yes I'm using quotes very deliberately   here because we know that we don't make anybody do 
anything but the child that's forming this schema   this is what they're remembering so when they grow 
up what are they going to remember the child hears   the father criticizing the mother and telling 
her how useless she is so the child interprets if   I don't do absolutely everything right I will be 
unlovable and useless this is the takeaway message   that the child gets from witnessing this emotional 
and/or physical violence for the future behaviors   this child may grow up and have behaviors that 
are shrouded in fear of failure causing them to   either refuse to try it's like why try I know 
I can't do anything right so screw it or to be   a perfectionist and just hold on with for dear 
life to control of everything in order to try to   be worthy of someone else's love they will fear 
abandonment a lot of times and again this is not   true across the board for every DV situation this 
is just an example I'm kind of pulling out from my   clinical experiences there's a need for external 
validation because you know they saw that mom was   never good enough for Dad and brought on all 
this bad stuff and nobody could ever seem to   make daddy happy and child couldn't make that 
happy and so now they're trying to figure out   well if I am going to be lovable I've got to make 
people happy and I don't know how to do that so   I need you to tell me I'm okay the child learns 
that he or she is responsible for other people's   feelings and behaviors and that's what gets filed 
back away we call it negative internal voice crit   internal critic the the heckling gallery whatever 
you want to call it these are the schemas and the   negative cognitions that a lot of times we end up 
addressing in counseling because they haven't been   questioned yet and they haven't been re-evaluated 
from an adult or a third party point of view so   what's the look if your anxiety and distress 
may come from faulty interpretations of prior   experiences creating faulty interpretations 
of present experiences so thinking back to situations in your past when you thought maybe 
somebody was they walk down the hall and they   had a horrible expression on their face and you're 
like ah you know what did I do to make this person   mad or you know whatever your interpretation 
was and then every time you see that person and   they have a scowl on their face you assume it's 
something you did that made them mad may not be   the case so there's faulty interpretations 
go back to the guy that walks in and has a   bulge in the back of there in the back of their 
jacket or the brain may use outdated experiences   what was threatening and overwhelming to a four 
or a six-year-old who couldn't feed themselves   cook food go to a grocery store that kind of stuff 
who couldn't fend for themselves versus a 26 year   old who is very capable of fending for themselves 
there's very different threats for those people so   the four or six year olds if mom or dad is all but 
incapacitated on drugs or alcohol or depression or   whatever it is and they can't function that's very 
threatening to a child because they're scared that   they're their caregiver won't be there for them 
once you're an adult yes it would be traumatic if   your caregiver wasn't there for you you know prior 
caregiver parent whatever you want to call them   wasn't there but as a 26 year old you can take 
care of yourself you can pay your bills you can   feed yourself you can go to the store so it's not 
as literally life-threatening and you know four   and six year olds aren't going well I could go 
into foster care and somebody else will take care   of me that's just not how a four-year-old thinks 
that's way too abstract so negative messages equal   threat there's there some sort of threat I need 
to fight or flee which produces a stress reaction   your brain dumps norepinephrine and glutamate 
it says we need to get the heck out of here or   we need to fight this off in order to survive 
so we're dumping in the hot into the bath and   you know that's great in the short term because 
it helps us survive but when you do that for too   long eventually the water heater runs out of hot 
water or you've got to reel it back a little bit   in order to balance out the temperature of the 
bath when you constantly bombard yourself with   negative messages your body constantly perceives 
a threat you're on high alert all the time so   you're not even sleeping well you've got cortisol 
coursing through your system there's low levels of   norepinephrine even when you're trying to sleep so 
you're not getting good restful sleep which means   you wake up you're groggy you have difficulty 
concentrating and you start experiencing those   symptoms that we have come to label as depression 
and when you feel this way day after day after   day at a certain point you may start feeling 
a little hopeless and hopeless as like I am so   tired of feeling this way what happens you know 
we talked about the store earlier and shutting   down all but two of the doors in your brain your 
brain is basically turning down the sensitivity   of the threat response system it's saying yeah 
there's a lot of threats out there but we've got   a conserve energy right now so we're only going 
to get excited or energized about a very narrow   range of really threatening things you know fire 
tornado those sorts of things the average day to   day stuff we don't have enough get up and go left 
in us to worry about it but that also means not   only are you not going to get stressed about some 
things you're also not going to feel happy about   some things so that apathy it's like whatever 
kind of pervades everything and there's the   sense of lack of pleasure and motivation but 
that's not at all I feel like a one of those   commercials on TV but that's not all just order 
now no simply reducing your stress won't fix it   changing your cognition it's a good start you know 
we need to start countering some of those memories   and sorting through those schemas and going that 
one's and accurate that one's accurate that one's   not so much so we don't feel like the world is 
a scary uncontrollable place all the time that   will help you know take down our stress level 
some but we also need good sleep we need good   nutrition and we need to get rid of any pain 
when you're stressed and think asking you to   think about yourself when you get stressed do you 
have physical aches and pains I know I do I carry   my stress in my neck and in my upper back and 
I can tell when I've had a really stressful day   because I kind of walk like this it's hard for 
me to even you know touch my head to my knees   when I'm sitting down so it's more difficult 
and there's more tension which uses energy in   and of itself to keep those muscles knotted up 
but pain keeps you from sleeping pain keeps you   from enjoying life when you're in chronic pain 
if my son just had his wisdom teeth out he is a   grump and a half right now and when we're in pain 
we tend to not be our jolly little self so all of   this contributes to how we perceive things how we 
remember things and generally how we're feeling   so to rebalance itself the body needs to have 
times when it's not on high alert times when   you're relaxing sometimes people have to learn 
to schedule in those times I can be very type A   and I can get to the point where I'm scheduling a 
lot of things back to back to back to back where   there's no downtime and I know that when I do that 
eventually I'm going to hit the wall and run out   of gas and it's not pretty so remembering that 
when you're working towards health and work-life   balance and all that stuff that we encourage 
people to do we need to remember to schedule   in rest and relaxation time you know coming home 
from work doesn't mean it's time to necessarily   start working on a home improvement project maybe 
it's time to sit on the couch and watch something   besides the news we need sufficient quality sleep 
and hours in bed does not connote to quality sleep   there is their sleep phases there are four of them 
five depending on which model you use and you need   a certain amount of deep sleep every night and 
alcohol nicotine caffeine and just some of our   habits prevent us from getting quality sleep and 
we need decent nutrition to fuel the system those   neurotransmitters got to come from somewhere 
they're made from the building blocks that we   take in and I say decent nutrition whenever 
I do these presentations because I know that   most people aren't going to all of a sudden start 
eating this miraculously healthy diet they're not   feeling very happy right now so starting to eat 
a whole bunch of rabbit food probably is not high   on their list and rabbit food is good don't get 
me wrong but that may not be where people's mind   is at that point in time and as clinicians unless 
you happen to be a registered dietician we can't   make nutritional prescriptions we need to refer 
to their doctor or a dietician but as clinicians   we can't educate them about the importance of good 
nutrition in in recovery and one of the tips that   a nutritionist friend told me was trying to have 
three colors on every on your plate at every meal   and breakfast is a little dicey sometimes but 
lunch and dinner it's really easy to get three   different colors on your plate so that's not 
counting calories carbs macros micros any of   that it's counting to three and most people can 
handle that as their first step towards better   nutrition and they'll find that they start feeling 
a lot better when they're giving their body but a   variety of nutrients that it needs to build the 
neurotransmitters so the brain is your control   center neurotransmitters are sent out dumped 
excreted whatever words you want to use to produce   a reaction to help you either survive a threat 
or remind you to repeat a reward so it's either   fight flee or oh yeah let's do that again through 
observation and experience your brain learns what   is okay and what is threatening so when you do 
things and there's a positive experience you're   going to remember that you're going to have a 
memory about it you're going to okay and when the   good memories outweigh the bad memories then that 
becomes more of a positive experience things that   were threatening or misinterpreted in the past may 
now need to be re-examined if well there's a whole   bunch of cognitive stuff but we want to look at 
in the present is this a threat to us and what are   our automatic beliefs if you want to go CBT here 
that are telling us that this is a threatening   situation and can we dispute those at all too much 
stress or excitement for too long means the brain   is sending out far too many excitatory transmitter 
transmitter which changes the balance that's like   turning that hot water all the way up and you've 
only got a trickle of cold water so the bath is   going to be too hot it's gonna hurt to get in 
after a hard day a lot of us want to just relax   and veg for a few minutes I need quiet time I 
don't know what anybody else calls it this is your   brain generally sending out the all-clear message 
and inhibitory or common chemicals coming in to   balance out the stress of the day as the okay 
everybody can relax now but we need that period   of time we don't want to ignore it and go no I 
can't relax I need to fill in the blank there's   always going to be need to do however if we want 
to be able to do them we need to give ourselves   time to relax and rebalance when the brain does 
not get the all-clear it recognizes that it needs   to conserve the excitatory chemicals for a true 
emergency so it turns down the sensitivity of the   threat response system basically it's saying 
if you won't conserve your energy I'll force   you to which is you know depression basically 
your body is conserving that last little bit of   noradrenaline norepinephrine that it has for when 
there's a true honest-to-goodness emergency and   nothing else is really going to get you all that 
excited by addressing old unhelpful thoughts and   interpretations you can reduce physical and 
mental stress and anxiety remember I said we   have mental stress we cognitively stressed but a 
lot of times we carry that in our in our muscles   and you know I have TMJ and I grind my teeth 
so I care I know I carry it in my jaw as well   so when I reduce my mental stress I also reduce 
my physical stress which helps me sleep better   so I can concentrate more and everybody's happy 
recovery involves not only helping your mind and   thoughts become healthy but also your body because 
if you don't have the building blocks to make the   neurotransmitters or if the neurotransmitters 
you're dumping at the wrong rate you're not   going to feel that physiological state that you 
label as contentment or happiness or relaxation final note in March on March 1st we're going to 
be starting to do happiness isn't brain surgery   podcast which is going to be designed to target 
just kind of the general population people who   are struggling with depression or anxiety issues 
or who just want to learn how to be happier and   healthier so stay tuned for that March 1st 
of 2017 so those like what six weeks from   now there's obviously since its targeted at 
the general population it's not going to be a   CEU thing but it will be a information for you 
thing yes so to speak so anyhow are there any   questions on today's presentation anything that 
wasn't clear anything you want to add let's see okay now I can hear you if you want to 
unmute yourself I can still see what   you're typing but if you want to unmute 
yourself so you don't have to type I can   actually hear you and so can everybody 
else and if you have any questions if   not have an amazing day and let's see 
it is Thursday at this time on Tuesday   I kept saying have a great weekend and yeah so 
Orion oriented to time in place and not always okay it doesn't look like anybody has any 
pressing questions or anything they want to   add I have learned a lot doing the presentation 
on sleep it's not next its next Thursday but   it will also be released in the counselors 
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